Money messing married women

When Peter got married seven years ago, he was the main breadwinner, as his wife did not have a job. While he had a degree and a well paying job, his wife had a diploma and did not get work for the first two years. In the second year of marriage, his wife gave birth to a son and Peter later got her a job through his work network of friends. After a year working, she told her husband intentions of going back to school to get a degree.
Peter allowed his wife to pursue her dream. In 2009, she graduated and mid last year, they had their second child, a girl. Everything was going well in their marriage until the end of last year when his wife got promoted.
The promotion meant she was now earning twice what he earned. At first, it felt awkward but his wife assured him it meant nothing and they would continue to work together as a couple.
Bad companyBut his wife has changed to a new person. She began to talk and dress differently and hang out with women who he believed were bad company. Most of her new classy friends were women in their late 40s who were either single or divorced but wealthy.
After meeting all his wife’s new friends at a company function, Peter advised his wife to end the friendship. But she started going out daily and coming home late. He again tried to talk to her and asked her to tone down as she had a baby who was barely a year but she remained adamant. In addition, she began hiding her money in a separate account yet, before then the couple operated a joint account.
Ignore callsThen two weeks ago, his wife informed him she was going to Mombasa for a ‘girls weekend’. He asked her not to go as their daughter was barely seven months old but she ignored him. He came home on Friday only to be informed by his son and house help that his wife had left for Mombasa and she would be back on Sunday night.
He was so angry and called her but she deliberately ignored his phone calls. When she returned on Sunday, she pretended nothing had happened. Peter claims his wife no longer respects him or cares for her children as she is too busy ‘climbing the social ladder’.
She is neglecting him and their children. He wants advice on how to deal with his wife.
No excusePeter needs to talk with his wife and make his feelings known. His wife needs to understand while it is a good thing she is growing in her career; it is no excuse to disrespect her husband and marriage.
Marriage is a partnership between two people and nothing not even money or friends should change that.
He needs to be very firm that if she continues with her behaviour, he can consult an older couple or family or close friends to advise her. If she still refuses, then he needs to do something drastic to shock her back into reality. While class and money is not necessarily a bad thing, it is not worth losing her loving husband and kids.