“Mum, I love him. I am a grown up
I can make my own decisions” she said
Talking over the phone
Her man was listening
“My mum wants to speak with you”
She said giving her man the phone
The man took the phone trying to look brave
“Why does she want to speak with me?” he asked her
“Hello” he said speaking over the phone
“Young man, do you like being disrespected?”
The mum asked authoritatively
“What are you trying to say?” he asked
The mum breathed trying to calm herself then continued
“I am sure you don’t like being disrespected
But why do you disrespect me?” the mum asked
“I haven’t disrespected you” the man said
The mother went silent then went on
“How foolish can you get? The woman you have there
The woman you are staying with in a come-we-stay situation
Is my precious daughter. You are both doing this so casually
I know you two are young and you claim to be adults
You can make your own choices and the world should leave you alone
But I cannot leave my daughter alone. I have raised her well
And I will not allow her to be part of something shoddy
You took my daughter, but have you cared to find out her family?
Do you know where she comes from? Who raised her?
This is the first time you have heard my voice
You’ve never even taken the time to meet me”
“I was planning to. We were planning to” the man said
The mum gave a sarcastic sound “When? I don’t want excuses
You have been living with her for months now. Are you a man?
You take a woman and don’t have the guts to do it right?”
“Don’t insult me” the man retaliated. The mum stopped him
“Don’t you dare raise your voice on me young man
A real man who is serious will want to make a woman his
In an honorable and respectful way. He doesn’t love a woman in secret
I have seen the likes of you. When a man takes a woman casually
He will start treating her casually. You will do things not pleasing
And hide behind the notion that you are not married to her
Why live with her like a wife, yet she is not your wife?”
The man watched his tone “We’re trying it out. To see if it’ll work”
The mum breathed again in disappointment
“People don’t try out marriage. People make marriage work
Decide, will you two be together or not? Are you planning on marrying her?”
“Yes. But I am just not ready for a wedding. I am saving up”
The mum was quick “Then remain dating and courting
If you are not ready stop having her like a fake wife
You try things out it doesn’t work out, then what, you dump her?
As long as you will have an exit route or a plan B and no accountability
This love you both claim to have will not work. It will be wasting time
You two have to fully commit to it and give your all. No holding back
A wedding is a show to yourselves, to God and to us that you’re serious
Who knows about you two staying together? Just a few friends
It just happened like a by the way. If you came together as a by the way
It is easy to also leave each other as a by the way. Act like adults
Declare it, make it official. Start this the right way. This is not child’s play
And listen. No one is forcing you to do a big wedding if you can’t afford
All I am asking is make it legal, make it official, honor yourselves and us
Go to the Attorney General for a wedding. Invite me and a few
I will be there. I want to give my daughter to a serious man
Money will always come. When it does, you can do a big wedding
When my daughter was born I officially registered her as a citizen
When she grew, I officially registered her to school, to university
If she gets married, I want an official registration and send off
I want to give her off with my heart in peace
You have done wrong by snatching her without consideration
But I will not judge you solely on that. I don’t know you yet
Meet me, I want to know you more. I want a good son-in-law
I want a son-in-law I can respect. Do something respectful
My daughter cannot ask you for marriage even if she wants to
You are the man. You are the one to propose
If you will be the head of the family, start leading”
The phone call ended. The man looked at the woman he loves
“What’s wrong? She scared you? Leave mum alone, she’s so nosy
I don’t want her all over our business”
The woman said
The man stood up, walked to his woman. Took her hand
“I don’t want to stand in between you and mum
She is the woman who raised you, educated you, she knows you
I need her blessings. I owe so much to her
Tomorrow let’s go see your mum. I want to meet her”
The woman was shocked “What are you saying? You’re serious?”
The man knelt down on one knee, with no ring he asked
“Will you marry me?”
http://www.capitalfm.co.ke/radio/my-phone-conversation-with-my-girlfriends-mom/
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